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By David Kamau
Article Category: Dating
Added on: 01/31/07 02:46
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This is fact. Thereâs competition in online dating. A winning personal ad is must if you hope to get the right guy or gal.
This article is not about revealing âsecretsâ of writing personal ads as thereâs no such animal. But follow the following tips and you will stand out of the crowd, which you must do to get noticed.
First draft your ad on a separate piece of paper or type it on a word-processing document such as Word, WordPad, and Notepad etc. Here are 10 steps to writing a winning personal ad:
Be honest: If youâre serious about finding that special someone donât, repeat donât, lie. Nothingâs as disappointing as finding out the guy/gal who claimed in emails that he/she works out regularly at the gym is 300ibs of adipose (fat) tissue.
As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. Most people look at the photo before they even think of reading the ad. You may email, upload or mail the photo for scanning, all free. But please donât use a picture of yourself when you were twenty if you are now 44! And oh yes, a smile helps too.
The top-rated dating sites allow you to upload a voice message with your ad. Your voice as well as manner of speech tells a lot about you. Use it the right way- no pretences please- and your ad will get attention.
Donât just say what you think people want to hear. Example, if you say you have a healthy sense of humor, yet your ad is dull and boring⦠well, they just wonât buy it.
Be realistic. Maybe you want to introduce some athletic genes into your family tree, but you will have a hard time finding an international Kenyan runner online.
Let your personality come through. Conversational style writing works best. If you have a sense of humor, use it but in good taste (donât tell a dirty joke in a non-adult website, please). Ditto if you have a poetic touch- just donât baffle them with Shakespearean talk.
Create an attention grabbing headline. Donât be just another âDWM, 42, Seeking Loveâ. Be different. A little homework will help here. Study the personal headlines that grab your attention. Use these as model. You can even steal a headline or two, just donât say I told you so (wink).
Describe yourself. You do know yourself, donât you? Donât be just another âLikes candle light dinnersâ. Who are you? Whatâs important to you? Do you enjoy long drives while appreciating natureâs beauty? Do you like Bach or Mozart? List these down.
This is more of an extension of #8 above: Instead of rambling on about the person youâre looking for, write about you own characteristics and personality. Put yourself in the other personâs shoes and ask yourself what you would like about YOU. List these down. Please be honest. All the same, avoid cheap modesty. If you have a special talent (example, you can play the piano really well), let it be known. Just state it as fact and not brag.
Be positive: You may be desperate and miserable, but please donât let it show. Negativity repels. Likewise avoid âthis is me, whether you like it or notâ mentality. Not only is it obnoxious, it also reeks of insecurity and/arrogance. Be yourself, positively.
Polish your ad: You wouldnât show up on your first date with unkempt hair and dirty clothes, I trust? Then check your ad for misspellings, bad sentences etc. Remove all the bits that might not interest your potential date. Be brief without losing essence: patience runs very thin online. Re-write till youâre completely satisfied- this might seem a pain in the rear, but the payoff is worth it.
BE HONEST! This can never be overstated.
Finished? Now you can transfer (or copy and paste) your extraordinary ad on to your favorite dating site and submit.
About the author:
David Kamau is the owner of http://e-datecentral.com. Receive updates, tips and articles about the e-date scene in you mailbox. Sign up for our free newsletter today at http://e-datecentral.com/subscribe.htm.
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