Sexy or scary?
One of the toughest aspects of being an escort and posting anything on the internet is that strangers, whom you will probably never meet, decide that they know you and can then attempt to tell you how you are (I missed the God's obituary, and the reading of His will in which he must have bequeathed those people his power). One of their myths about me is that I am incredibly beautiful, have no insecurities whatsoever about my body and love using my perfect body to make the aesthetically challenged feel worse. Whatever else I do, I am still a woman, so I still have parts of my body I'm not completely happy with, but I'm generally comfortable in my skin.
Yesterday morning, I got a call from a new client. He was a tad nervous, so I set about relaxing him. Then he told me what he did for a living - let's just say it's a job I associate with perfect bodies - and I became terrified. I didn't say anything and tried to conceal my own nerves. He probably had the best physique of all my clients, but what surprised me was that he thought my body was sexy. You can't really analyse these things, but I think men's ideas about what makes a woman sexy are quite different from women's ideas.
If anyone can explain the difference, I'd be grateful. Now I'm off to get dressed!
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Added on: 03/17/06 04:39
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Ryan |
 
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I didn't feel that Jessica was referring specifically to men. I had assumed women were the problem. I guess men like attractive women but don't really like women who "think they are the best thing since sliced bread". It does tend to get under your skin a bit.
Posted on: 03/20/06 09:23
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Anika Mae |
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From women, it doesn't suprise me, I realise a lot of them are kind of crazy. I was a bit suprised to hear about men buying into it though, maybe it's that catfight fantasy that was discussed over on the board.
Posted on: 03/19/06 20:14
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Kimberley |
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Never saw the attraction with Jolie. Jennifer is always the more natural attractive. Excuse poor typing Friday night drink.
One thing I have to say is with your pictures I could never be worried, they are awesome, before I spoke to you I was in awe, after I spoke to you, men are missing out on something special if they don't talk to you.
I am a compliment where compliment is due kind of gal but this gal is hot, her mind is stimulating, her pictures are hot and she has a wicked brain in there.
From an Essex fan xx
Posted on: 03/17/06 16:18
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Ryan |
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"As for that assumption that you lord your perfect body over other women... how weird. I've never heard that one."
My wife gets that a lot. She's very attractive and stylish and other women get very jealous. They think she "fancies herself" and looks down on them. Actually she does nothing of the sort. She dresses according to her own tastes and with a little advice from me. But many women are competing all the time in the way they dress and present themselves - they assume that well-presented women are also competitive and get cheesed off when they are outdone by one of them.
Posted on: 03/17/06 09:47
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Ryan |
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I'm the same with Sandra Bullock. I don't find her attractive, but then again I understand why a lot of men do - good genes you see. Clear skin, slim, clear eyes, bright upbeat personality. A fine display of physical and mental health ideal for child-rearing. However, personally I find her too ditzy - she'd drive me up the wall.
Posted on: 03/17/06 09:33
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Deirdre |
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This is a creature whom I cannot see the attraction, I know a lot of the female species seems to think otherwise but no he is certainly one who I do not find attractive in the least ...
Deirdre x
Posted on: 03/17/06 08:47
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Ryan |
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It all comes down to how good your genes are perceived to be. Tom Cruise and Angelina Jolie - fatastic gene set so right at the top of the attractiveness hierarchy. Wayne and Waynetta cr*p gene set so right at the bottom of the hiearachy. Everyone knows Tom and Angelina are good looking but it's irrelevant. We all sit at our own level in the hierarchy and there are many partners for us at the level we are at.
Self-esteem comes into this to. Its how we perceive ourselves. We may have low self-esteem (common in women and people that spend a lot of time in the gym ironically) and feel underserving of the attentions of others, or we may have self-esteem too high and be have expectations of the kind of person that we can attract that is higher than it should be.
Posted on: 03/17/06 08:43
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Deirdre |
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Being a woman who revels in nudism I find that as the years have gone on there is nothing to worry about, no human body is perfect, what defines perfect anyway? Ridiculous glossy magazines with women who are like barbie dolls, appalling examples to young women and teenage girls ... as the previous writers have said confidence is the main criteria and with confidence comes an inner beauty which shines through.
Deirdre x
Posted on: 03/17/06 08:41
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Anika Mae |
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I agree with Penny, being confident is very important. The situation helps too, you're an escort and he's paying you, so naturally you must be gorgeous.
Apart from that, men overall are far more complex and diverse then a lot of women give them credit for.
As for that assumption that you lord your perfect body over other women... how weird. I've never heard that one.
Posted on: 03/17/06 08:12
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I think thats what it is. As a BBW before escorting i was always nervous of revealing my body to the opposite sex, quite shy. But since ive been escorting Ive become more confident in my own skin, guys love my shape, my feel. And the more confident ive got, the more I have relaxed and enjoyed myself, and I think that somehow comes across.
There are lots of guys out there that love a natural body. Yes Im typical in that there are things that I would love to change, but would never have surgery cos Im too much of a whimp ;o).
Hugs
Penny xxx
Posted on: 03/17/06 07:44
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