How do YOU deal with it?

A question for my comrades and colleagues scattered across the globe: how do you deal with a client falling in love with you, or asking or hinting about a civvie relationship with you?

I've already had this happen a few times in the few months I've been a provider and so far just kind of ignore it; so far, no one has been pushy about it and I just play dumb when clients hint at a desire for a relationship. But I'm curious as to how others deal with it.

Hobbyists, feel free to add your two cents too :)

When a client starts telling me he is in love I act right away. I have to be very tactful. Most of the time I say the truth which is I love idea of being closer to them but it also makes me feel uncomfortable. I tell him that when I am not comfortable I just wont meet him anymore. I had to turn on my BS meter all the time. Discourage them by saying I am a witch!!!! and I know Voodoo! lol! not at all...

Anyways once I probably had been too nice but there was one who even said I know we have not even met yet we just were able to talk but now for me it makes me jealous to know you are with another client. I have to talk to him and we both agreed that we wont push through.

True I believe everyone is capable of being jealous and its such a terrible thing. People kill out of jealousy and in my profession my man wont be able to handle my kind of life. He just does not exist! Marriage is not for me(I just got through telling my nicest clients...) and I am not seeing myself walking down the isle. I just don't I cant see my face, my body wearing a gown... I am weird lol!

If you want to know, if it is a good idea having a love relationship with an (ex) client, or a man who knows about your escort activities, then to be honest NO. I do not think this is a good idea falling in love to an escort and vice versa. A person who thinks that falling in love with an escort is wise is only kidding himself. He will be always thinking of the men she was with no matter how much he says he won't. When they argue it will be the first thing to come to his mind and he will cut you with his tongue. He will wonder each time he walks down the street with you and people are about if one of them is your john. He will wonder when you are late if it was ligit or if you were off doing the naughty. You cannot build a real relationship that can work, when one part is in this business. The mind will eat you up and spit you out. Let it be and move on.

Nymph is right, be tactful when you reject someone. This is a general act of good behaviour which btw has nothing to do with your escort business. It is the same for gentlemen. :)

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So I guess the point is that falling in love with someone you have done business with must be difficult to the point of impossible - but I don't think that someone who has been an escort can have a relationship that really means something without telling the person involved about their past - surely that would be a huge lie that would always make other lies easy and lead to the breakdown of the strongest of potential relationships.

I guess the other way around is also true, if you were a hobbyist with a unbreakable habit, not much chance of that not eventually tearing apart a relationship.

For my part, I have a couple of friends who are in the business, one of which I met through her work - wouldn't dream of having sex with her now though - it wouldn't be right for either of us for me to pay her.

But does that raise a question - I certainly don't love this girl and never expect to - but she is my friend and I like spending time with her. Friendship has got nothing to do with sex or attraction. Could therefore two people build a relationship after starting it in an difficult way... It seems unlikely and unwise, but perhaps possible.

So I guess for me it comes back to the age old question - can a man actually be a friend with a woman or is he always thinking about sex? Frankly I think that's a smug statement and complete bollocks.

I've been maried B4 & I can honestly say I was miserable the entire time. As a hobbyiest, I'm much happier being single. Isn't it better to B single & happy than chance being married & miserable? I DEFINIITELY will NEVER try marriage again or any long term relationship!

Well, I, actually, hope I get to find out how to deal with it when my business gets going big. I'll be searching for a long time, exclusive, commpanion and I know it's going to cost me. And that's the good thing because I'll know it's business and nothing more. I would love to have a long term exclusive arragnement with a lady in Vancouver but I'll never have her stay with me in Costa Rica. She has her family in BC and that's where she'll stay.
But, if I meet a lady in Costa Rica things could be different. Just have to wait and see how things go.

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you are right you cant be in our job forever but if you save most of your money in this job you can retire early ..you can start a new life open a legal business and look forward with no regrets ..cos i believe in this business you have a time line what it means is if you started early in this business people will look at you as fresh meat but when you get older people tends to ignore you more ,so you have the option to continue or just retired.

It happens and guys seem to respond that way if you offer a GFE service where the object is to make it as "romantic" and date-like as possible.

When guys start to get mushy and you know they are falling in love/lust I can usually cool their jets when they call to see me by booking them but letting them know that I have either a long list of appointments before and I may be running late or that I can only stay for the hour and have to be outta there as I have a full evening after. ... if that doesn't cool him off about bringing me home to meet mom, then I start a sentence by saying "honey, i've been working for 5 years and of the thousands of guys I've date you gotta be in the top 10%....

I can't figure it out mostly. Some active guys see maybe 50 women tops in their lifetime and i've had weeks with that volume so who is kidding who?