Dating an escort
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08/17/11 13:40
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Always interested to hear differing points of view Michael. Let me just say that I met the woman behind the high heels first and grew to know her as a true friend for some years before all was revealed. We fell in love with each other over time and I wouldn't change a thing.
The woman I know is frighteningly intelligent, self aware and sensitive with a depth of character I have never encountered before. What she does for a living is incidental to who she is. I don't have the right to try to change her in any way. My job as her partner is to offer emotional support when she is down, to love her unconditionally and make her life as easy as possible/ If she worked in a factory she would hire her hands out for 8 hours a day, If an office her mind or if a model, her looks. As an Escort, she hires out all of those things as well as her pussy. She gets paid well but gives herself totally to the job at hand. Her repeat business is testament to the quality of service she delivers. But she loves me and I am blessed. Obviously our future plans do not include her continuing to work but that decision is entirely hers. |
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10/21/11 10:28
mickmouse |
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I would like to know from providers how they would recommend clients ask their provider out on a regular date. What is the best way to get to know her personally if you feel an emotional attachment to her.
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10/22/11 09:02
Michael2015 |
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quote Gypsyblues : Always interested to hear differing points of view Michael. Let me just say that I met the woman behind the high heels first and grew to know her as a true friend for some years before all was revealed. We fell in love with each other over time and I wouldn't change a thing. The woman I know is frighteningly intelligent, self aware and sensitive with a depth of character I have never encountered before. What she does for a living is incidental to who she is. I don't have the right to try to change her in any way. My job as her partner is to offer emotional support when she is down, to love her unconditionally and make her life as easy as possible/ If she worked in a factory she would hire her hands out for 8 hours a day, If an office her mind or if a model, her looks. As an Escort, she hires out all of those things as well as her pussy. She gets paid well but gives herself totally to the job at hand. Her repeat business is testament to the quality of service she delivers. But she loves me and I am blessed. Obviously our future plans do not include her continuing to work but that decision is entirely hers. GB, there's ALWAYS an exception to every rule...I'm glad U did find Ur lady, but ordinarily most men would'nt B able to handle his lady giving her pussy to OTHER men! That's the good thing about SEA...there's SO many different opinions & views, rite? |
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11/07/11 04:39
kansai-sayuri |
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quote mickmouse : I would like to know from providers how they would recommend clients ask their provider out on a regular date. What is the best way to get to know her personally if you feel an emotional attachment to her. This is an interesting question. In answer to the thread title: Yes, I think that a man (hobbyist or otherwise) dating an escort should be just fine. There are benefits/detriments in such a relationship but I think that this would be true of dating people in various other jobs. But, a client asking an escort out on a regular date? While I wouldn't be against the idea out of hand, I would certainly be uncomfortable for a variety of reasons. The first reason would be the obvious one: meeting the client was in the realm of business, and even if it was enjoyable business, my first thought after being asked out would be what his motives and expectations were. Even if I liked him personally, it would seem somewhat suspicious. After all, in this case, dating is my business much as medicine is a doctor's business. Would it be ok to ask a doctor for a (free) checkup after having an initial (paid) checkup....or even after having many (paid) checkups? I think most people would say no. And asking an escort out in such a situation may imply that the asker may not really have all that much respect for her and what she does. While many people may think this way, it is hypocritical. Now if you had met the doctor outside of the business sense, became friends and such, and then asked for a free checkup the feeling may be different. In any case, from both the client's and the escort's point of view, such a date is problematic. I have had clients ask me out but these are usually people that ask for a discount as well, so I know what they are after. Or by very wealthy people who want a mistress for various reasons, which while more intimate and familiar is really still a form of escorting (then again, some say marriage is a form of escorting from a certain point of view) and something that I wouldn't have the time for anyway since this is an extra-curricular thing for me. The one time I accepted a few dates with a former client, it didn't work out because of various expectations. If at some point you do ask and it does work out, do not expect to get laid at the end of the first date! It probably also wouldn't due to dictate that now that you are dating, she should give up her lifestyle and such. I think that dating with any man (hobbyist etc.) requires a certain type of man that is really confident or philosophical about life. It also requires absolute honesty, which I think is hard for any kind of couple. I really can't come to a concrete answer on this except to say that while I don't think it is impossible, I do think there are a lot of hurdles for both parties! Sorry, I can't answer any better :( |
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11/07/11 07:45
Michael2015 |
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KS, U did a fine job explaining...I havta agree w/Ur viewpoint...while not totally impossible, it's not highly recommended, either!
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11/07/11 09:41
Naughty Kitty |
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I still say it is impossible unless you are ok every one in your life know you are an escort. Are you going to keep the fact you dating a secret from your family? Most men will want to meet them When people date they never think about some day it may break up. Break ups can and many times are revengeful. If he has met your friends and or family he has information about your life that can really hurt you. My family would be devastated to know what I do.
Also what about my clients? I know some of them would love to be with me as dating. How do I explain I picked one man over them? I think it would cause some of my clients to lose face and not want to pay me again. I know if I was a man it would affect me. One of the biggest myths is an escort in Bangkok make her money on tourists.......maybe a few but that is ONLY a myth.....tourists most are on budgets and have little money to spend outside of hotel and shopping and site seeing.......all most all of my clients are business men on trips or live here and it would get around very fast if I were dating outside of escort. And. all most all of those men who say they can be with you and accept you still an escort what to control it some how even if they say they dont. They one of these or all.... ........have you explain in detail what you do with client ........want to hide and watch ........use it as an excuse to see other girls ........get angry if late coming back from meeting client and want to know why ........want to decide who you can and who you cannot meet ........complain you not feel like sex tonight when you give client sex ........want to read or emails or chats with clients ........want to see messages and monnitor calls on phone ........tell you that you see one client too much ........ and many more I dont want the pressure of I not hurry back or not give man I date enough time. I must have freedom to decide all things without considering how it affect him. I use this quote from a man post on here he loves an escort and has a relationship with her: "Obviously our future plans do not include her continuing to work but that decision is entirely hers." This quote to me is one of the problem. HE say our future then say HER decesion...... that alone puts much pressure on her. to me obviously infers her decesion is already made.......again much pressure -------------------- Do you want your balls in my hand or do you want me to hand you your balls?
-2 hours 6000 baht *lunch or dinner + 2 hours 6000 baht -4 hour 7, 500 *lunch or dinner + 4 hours 6500 baht -all day OR all night 9500 baht - 24 hour 12000 www.gappza.me |
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11/08/11 02:29
kansai-sayuri |
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This is all pretty interesting and as I've had a little more time to reflect on it I've come to think that perhaps circumstances, culture, and location may come into play in regard to the likelihood of a successful relationship with an escort and vice versa. I would guess that, depending on these circumstances, it really depends on the couple in question. Certainly, for some people, it would be out of the realm of possibility, while for others it would be acceptable.
While, I believe that I will always think that dating between escorts and clients is problematic for the reasons I stated in my last post, personal experience makes it difficult for me to believe that this lifestyle pushes escorts into the category of being un-date-able. All relationships have requirements and levels of control within them, they also require giving one another 'the benefit of the doubt'. The very definition of 'relationship' implies these things since as partners we invariably influence eachother, either directly or passively such as the way likes and dislikes affect eachothers' thinking. Of course there is control too, but if the person is right, then it stands that the reasons will be right, with one's safety and well-being as a central theme. However, in addition, I also believe that near utter honesty and openness, well beyond that in a 'normal' relationship is certainly a requirement. Therefore, knowing oneself and what one can/cannot do may be central in deciding whether one is capable of pursuing such a relationship. Though being Japanese and coming from a somewhat closed and stoic culture that places emphasis on the group over the indiviual (who is supposed to bear all burdens quietly and unemotionally), I am pleased that I have a supportive mate that I can be completely honest and open with, and who I can share my burdens with. The question is: are we happy? We are. And it is the best relationship I've ever had. I'm sure this post is somewhat redundant and still may not answer anything concretely, but I wanted to post again to let others, who think they may be capable of such a relationship, know that the possibility of a successful relationship certainly exists! Good luck everybody! =) |
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11/15/11 09:33
a hotwife |
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We have been together 20years married for 10... Our only online ad is here ... We have had a blast meeting new friends these last few years..it does happen guys just very rare we would say....
-------------------- AHotwife with cuckold
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11/15/11 20:07
kansai-sayuri |
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@hotwife, I think that your attitude and openness is very encouraging about escorts and dating! The fact that you make it into a blast and see it as an interesting way to meet new people is wonderful. I feel the same way and hope that I'll be able to say such things always!
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02/22/12 18:00
sierramichaels |
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I'd have to say that it takes a very strong man to marry or date an escort. Most clients fantasize about becoming the husband or boyfriend of their ATF escort but I would advise against a relationship forming after a client/escort relationship...eventually you'll remember the times you had when it was all business and wonder why it's not like that anymore. Let me explain, when we providers are entertaining a client we are in character, we playing the role a client wants us to. At home, in the real world, we are different people. We no longer want to be the "Sex Kitten" who acts on cue. We want normal interaction and friendship. Some men get threatened by our change. They inevitably ask the question "Why do you have so much sexual energy for your clients and not me?". If you do date or marry a woman in this business, I suggest strongly that you avoid reading her reviews or getting involved with any part of her professional life. And for God's sake, never ask questions or allow her to discuss clients with you!
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